One Gift You Should Never Return

I’m a positive feedback junkie. I admit it. I can never get enough.  So I’m always surprised when people tell me that receiving compliments makes them uneasy.

Recently I was talking with a client who told me this is true for him.  He’s part of the “no news is good news” crowd.  When I asked him what he does when he receives positive feedback, he said, “Nothing really.  No reply if it’s via email.  And I kind of mumble thank you otherwise.”

“Really?  Why?” I asked.

“I’m just uncomfortable. And I figure most of it’s fake anyhow.”

“But if it’s a genuine compliment and you ignore it or shrug it off, how do you think that makes the other person feel?”

He thought for a moment and then said “Bad.  I guess it’s like returning a Christmas present.  While the person who gave it to you is watching.”

Truer words were never spoken.  So as we’ve come to the Holiday Season, I’d like to encourage all of you to open your hearts and minds to the good things people say to you.  And most importantly, please let them know you’ve heard them and appreciate it.  Treat it like a gift you would never return.